Friends with Benefits

In the past few months, I found out a new term-Friends with Benefits. According to Wikipedia, Friends with Benefits means a casual relationship, colloquially known as a fling, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship. This kind of relationship may be part time, or for a limited time, and may or may not be monogamous. As conclusion, a girl and a guy constantly having sex but actually they are only friends.

As we know, people in Western countries are more open minded if compare with people in Asian countries. So, I never think of this kind of complicated relationship could happen in our country. Further, they are people you know. I don't understand why they want to make the world so complicated. Seems like we are going to live in world of Gossip Girl, One Tree Hill or Sex and City.

Anyway, it's non of my business, I just express my feeling that I can't accept it. Do you agree with Friends with Benefits?

Where is My Love?

Recently Sony-Nex5 came out a very meaningful advertisement. When separation happened between two persons who are deeply in love, it was torturing. Put some time to finish up the video, it's really touching.

你有多久沒有為你愛的人拍下永不磨滅的瞬間？不要猶豫，盡情去拍下當下一起的幸福吧...終有一天，他們會離開，不要讓自己遺憾。 時間不能夠倒轉，但是有能讓時間永遠停止的魔法，那就是攝影... 攝影就是讓瞬間變成永恆的魔法。 我年輕的時候就是攝影師，拍了不知道多少美麗的美景、人物...可是當她離開了，我才發現，我們從來沒有合照過...如果可以的話，我寧願忘了回家的路，也不要忘記她的每一個瞬間。... ---下一站幸福的攝影師

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How to turn a friend into a lover

• Stop being so friendly! Act more like a girlfriend would.
• Get a little bit in touch with your inner bitch - it's sad but true, men like nice girls, but fall for mean ones.
• Never let him see you in sloppy clothes; dress as you would for a boyfriend, not a mate.
• Don't be an permanent call for him. It's never good idea to be too available for a man, any man, even if he is just a friend.
• Flirt with him. Bat your eyelids, give good eye contact and then look away.
• Don't be too "blokey" in an attempt to be accepted as one of the boys. Okay, so you like football too, but keep quite about it. He will never see you as a woman if you understand the offside rule better than him.
• Laugh at his jokes and flatter him, though don't over do it. You want to be his girlfriend, not his one-woman fan club.

Signs of Healthy Love

• Keen for you to have a life of your own as well as a life with them.
• Encourage you to take a new job, even if it means they will see less of you; they want the best for you, not them.
• Thinks spending some time apart is a good thing.
• Not keen to share every cough and splutter of their life with you, nor expect you to with them.
• If you are driving to another city they like you to phone when you get there, just to let them know you have arrived safely. But after that, they don't expect constant reports.
• Loves hearing about your life before you met - those who love too much can be pathologically jealous of your past.
• Keen for you to have other friends, other interests besides them.

Watch Your Words, Girls

What you say can heighten or obliterate the mood so avoid the following lines or they are bound to pour cold water over your boyfriend's libido :

• My ex-boyfriend used to do that.
• I will have sex if you want me to, but I'm not really in the mood.
• Why can't you just wait until I have finished washing up / painting my toenails / watching Desperate Housewives.?
• But we made love last night.
• Try not to moan so loudly - my flatmate's probably listening.
• Do you think my new black lacy teddy makes me look fat?

Friend-Centric Conversation

"Complaining, demanding, engaging in one upmanship with friends - women who thrive on attention are on a fast track to loneliness. Are you one of them?"

Stop hogging the conversation. The next tie you are with a friend let her know that she matters to you by :

• Making eye contact while you are talking - don't play with the sugar or your straw or you will give the impression you are not listening.


• Kicking off the conversation by asking how she is and what is been going on in her life.


• Checking back with her about what she is saying to let her know you are interested as well as listening. Ask questions like "How did you feel about that" and "Does it still bother you now?"


• Avoid bringing yourself or your own experiences into the conversation for as long as possible.


• Make statements that show you empathise e.g. "That must have been awful" or "No wonder you felt so upset."


• If you get interrupted by the waiter taking your order or someone you know stopping to say "hello", make a mental note of what your friend was saying so that you can immediately pick up conversation where it left out.

Stranger Friendly

Want to be someone that a stranger would like to make friends with? Then make an effort to:

1. Ask about their life and interests-talking about the latest film you have seen is often a good way to get conversation started.


2. Withhold some of your life story. If you share it all the first week, you may come across as too intense - and in a few hours you will have radically reduced your number of talking points.


3. Listen, don't just talk - it will make the other person feel as if you find them interesting.


4. Make an effort to accept invitations, even if you feel a little uptight about going somewhere alone.


5. Call a second time if your first phone message wasn't returned - maybe the person is shy or has been busy. Use the excuse that your voicemail has played up and you have six messages you can't retrieve - was their one of them?


6. Smile - it will set a nice warm vibe and help you feel more confident.


7. Be positive - even if you are feeling down - otherwise you might give the impression you are after an agony aunt rather than a friend.


8. Let the person know you have enjoyed their company - that way they will be clear you like them and want to pursue a friendship. This can be done by calling or sending an email to say "Thanks, I had a good time and would love to catch up again."

"No matter how wide your social circle there is plenty to gain from making new friends."

女人，你有坏习惯吗？

1。嘴不修着

♣Why? ---> 吃个不停，嘴巴不听动，毫无形象

2。小气

♣Why? ---> 有一点事就唠唠叨叨，男友做错一点事就念，念个不停

3。逼男友坦白过去
♣Why? ---> 不说不高兴，听了又不高兴

4。烟熏妆
♣Why? ---> 化得和黑眼圈似的也叫好看？黑黑的，看起来像几天没睡觉

5。狂发短信
♣Why? ---> 有事没事都发短信

6。频密洗澡
♣Why? ---> 一天冲好多次，浪费水

7。照镜子
♣Why? ---> 历史悠久，源远流长。有事没事就拿镜子照

8。发嗲
♣Why? ---> 发嗲让可爱的女人显得更可爱，但不分场合的发嗲只会让人无可奈何

9。煲电话粥
♣Why? ---> 明明当面两句话说清楚的事儿，一到电话上，就不知道需要半小时还是一小时了

10。逛街
♣Why? ---> 从早到晚，没日没夜

11。攀比
♣Why? ---> 人比人，气死人

12。减肥
♣Why? ---> 过分的减肥会有害健康，最重要是吃的健康

13。八卦
♣Why? ---> 说者无意，听者有心

14。做媒

♣Why? ---> 落花有意，流水无情

How many of these bad attitude you have now?

If you have one of the bad attitide stated, it is time to change or maybe find girl friends to hang out together. ☺